Spacious Living

Spacious living is about having ample room in your days for what matters most. 


What would spacious living look like for you this month?


Would it look like: 

  • time to decompress
  • time to pursue a dream
  • time with family or friends
  • a regular health or creative practice
  • space to actively create
  • space to rest
  • adventure
  • creative community 


The photos below are to act as idea generators more than definitions. They are moments from my own practice of building a spacious life so I share them strictly as inspiration. What would your "spacious living" photos look like? Come share them with us! 


And if creative community is something that matters to you -- if it's a piece of what it means for you to build meaningful, honest days -- then I invite you to join your tribe. 


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Hidden creativity

The visible part of creating and presenting or selling something is but a portion of the creative process.

Before then there had to be time:

  • Time to dream and dream and dream 
  • Time to plan
  • Time to learn skills
  • Time to develop a rhythm or style
  • Time to research
  • Time to synthesize information
  • Time to make connections
  • Time to build support systems
  • Time to gather tools and materials
  • Time to experiment
  • Time to fail
  • Time to dream again
  • Time to start the whole process over again

There's no shortcut to creating original, meaningful work. This is a journey.  And it's worth the effort.

Get The Relentless Creative Handbook and learn to make space for the journey.


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Use your energy wisely

your creative energy must be directed


In order to use your energy wisely your creative energy must be directed towards an appropriate problem or project.

Unfocused creative energy can attack those closest to you because boredom + intensity is unpredictable. This path can drain your resources, is exhausting, produces no real benefit for the effort expended, and often leaves a wake of confusion in its path.

It's simple enough to avoid that pain though. If you must create (and we all create on a daily basis) find an appropriate project for your energy, passion, and skill. 



The joy of editing my book

The first time I sent The Relentless Creative Handbook off to my editor I wasn't sure what I had created. 

I knew it was unlike anything I had created before. I knew I had written things I wanted to share with (and about) relentless creatives. I knew it was a special project with potential.

But was it any good? That I didn't know.

I quickly coached myself into accepting that it wasn't up to me to decide the answer to such a question. The only thing to do was. . . wait. 

Thankfully I was only waiting on my editor and she had to get back to me in a timely manner. And she did so with positive, encouraging words. She confirmed that this was a special project full of heart. I was able to exhale. I was then surprised when feelings of success and pride washed over me. The book was still a long way from being a physical book in my hands and yet the fear and uncertainty were gone. 

I had accomplished my goal. I made something. I put it out there for editing (critique) and it came back more real than when I sent it.

See, something that had only lived in my head, heart and computer had become visible and tangible. It was now a real thing that could be discussed and critiqued and enjoyed and beneficial.  

As a lover of process, I was glad that there were two more rounds of editing ahead of us. The editing process had proved itself to be empowering. Each round was unique while still being both challenging and up-lifting.

How exciting it is to see a thing you've created with fresh perspective and living outside your own head. This is why taking action on your dreams is a part of the creative process rather than the end.

As real as the dream can be, action makes it real on a whole new level . . . a level that can be discussed and critiqued and enjoyed and beneficial.

Bringing dreams into reality is the creative's great success. 



Marking time

This week marks 3 months since my perfect baby boy stopped living. 

He was stillborn on his due date. 

As his life began about this time last year and we now face our first Christmas without our son I wanted to share a piece of our story. While there are so many things I could and will say (more than I have thus far on social media) I want to open his story here by sharing our art.

As the time drew near and I waited to meet my son, I began marking time by creating new art. It was more emotional and layered than anything I'd created before. It was meant to be personal; a visual exploration of ideas and emotions after the intensity of writing and editing a book in just 20 weeks while pregnant and working and parenting and house renovating. Yet now, in his absence, I'd like to share.

I've made 9 pieces available in the shop for only 23 days. The first 6 pieces were created in the last month of Oscar's life. The last 3 pieces have been created since his death. 

If you'd like to know my Oscar a little better or mark time along your own journey I'm sharing this for you. 

I will continue to mark time and I'm inviting you to join me.


The Relentless Creative marking time

Keep your home in shape with this 1 simple trick

Rearrange details as you see them stop working.

Keep your home in shape with this 1 simple trick

That's the trick.

Be it furniture arrangements, closet organization or a shelf to display small treasures each can serve a purpose today and later become outdated. When creating a spacious home, "outdated" isn't about style or fashion; it simply means this detail or arrangement is no longer serving it's purpose or those who live there. 

This little trick allows for life seasons, struggles and joys to each be fully supported in the home. And being a successful support system is really the underlying role of the home. The home has the ability to protect our dreams, strengthen our stories and deepen our closest relationships. Allowing the details within the home to change and grow so they continue to meet your deeper goals is one way to create a spacious home.

9 ways to spaciously transition into Autumn

Get the 9 steps to intentionally create a spacious Autumn

Each season brings its share of delightful activities and Autumn is no different. The cooling weather, focus on family and coming holidays make it a special time of year. However, those same realities can also make it a stressful season. With just a bit of planning you can create space + time to thrive this season.  

Here are 9 simple and practical ways to transition into Autumn gracefully while still building a spacious life: 


1. Celebrate little moments for the rest of the summer. One of the easiest ways to welcome any change and still feel spacious is to enjoy the present season. This allows you to fully embrace the new without harboring regret about the past. How can you fully enjoy your last weeks of summer? 

2. Consider how you want to feel this fall. Do you want to feel productive, energetic, creative, successful, powerful, protected, restful, scholarly, thoughtful or nurturing? Plan for it now. What needs to happen in advance for these feelings to be your reality come fall? Will you need to rearrange some details in your home or something in your schedule? 

3. Set your fall goals in advance. When you set goals in advance it opens up space + time to simply take action at the right time. With the hard work of making decisions and creating a plan behind you you're able to jump right into action. So, what is your goal looking forward? For example, if you hope to start or finish a particular creative project lay out the details now including important dates or deadlines, locations where the work will happen, necessary tools or materials and allowances in your timeframe for life to get in the way. Then you can go back to tip #1 knowing you're ready to spring into action when the time comes.

4. Begin gathering inspiration. The time for being inspired is before crunch time. Do you plan on hosting a fall dinner party, celebration, or holiday? Find and organize your inspiration and preliminary plans at least a month in advance. This gives you time to gather needed supplies and to either simplify or embellish your initial vision based on your current reality. 

5. Put seasonal activities on the calendar. Are you just hoping you remember to decorate pumpkins on time or visit a pumpkin patch or corn maze on the best weekend? Waiting until the last minute to consider these trivial details only makes them more stressful and less fun. Go ahead and put those things on your calendar right now.

6. Allow time to transition. Autumn has a tendency to naturally slow the pace of life. Even if this is a welcome change for you it may take time to enjoy it. Just as you can create space + time in the home to transition well throughout the day so you can create space + time in the schedule to transition into a new season. Whenever your "back to fall" week lands on the calendar, simply schedule a handful of special outings, treats or time to decorate. Five minutes a day, spent intentionally transitioning from one season to another, increases a sense of control and therefore lowers stress. Time to transition is really just taking the time to actively participate.

7. Design the details. The blankets and hot cuppa and focus on conversation and time to linger and details you create within the home all play a part in hosting the season. In fact, every detail you design aids how you want to feel (tip #2) and your your goals (tip #3.) In addition to actively designing details you also passively design the details when you allow for time to experience the moment. Allowing for 3 minutes just to play in the leaves can feel as spacious as 2 hours chatting with friends over coffee. Small moments hold heaps of possibility when you're building spacious days. 

8. Get creative. Every transition can benefit from a creative outlet and this is especially true in fall as your life starts moving indoors more. Give yourself permission to use some of your time and resources for a creative project.  Short creative projects could replace trips to the river or swimming pool while tackling a 3 month creative project could replace summer's lost sense of adventure. In addition, intentionally creating also helps you with tip #7. 

9. Let go of the expectations. Is life different this year? Are you feeling less enthusiastic about all the trivial details of the season? Good news -- this years Autumn doesn't have to be as all out as last year or match your neighbors enthusiasm. Give yourself permission to enjoy only the details of the season that contribute to your goals, support your relationships and benefit the spacious life you are building. 


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